Dating advice for single parents

Dating is a minefield whatever your situation and when you're a parent, things can feel even tougher, but don't feel disheartened we have made a little list of things to consider and helpful hints.

Don’t feel guilty. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to date again when you’re a single parent. It doesn’t make you a bad mum or dad. In fact, a good parent, is a happy parent—so you’ve got to make sure you’re happy. And making time for yourself will be a positive thing, for everyone in the long run.

Be open. It’s so important to be upfront about being a parent in your online dating profile, or when you first meet someone in real life. There used to be a stigma surrounding this, but there’s not anymore, and you don’t want to be with someone who’s going to judge you for having a child anyway.

Be confident. You might be nervous about dating again and don’t worry because that’s perfectly normal. When you do something new, or something you haven’t done in a long time, you’ll feel butterflies. Just embrace that energy, because it’s a sign that you’re choosing to step out of your comfort zone and continue forward with your life.

Time. For single parents time is usually at a premium and any free time they have will be very precious. When you are first getting to know each other, if possible, arrange to meet for lunch dates – when the kids are at school – or at weekends if the children stay with their other parent or grandparents.

Don’t rush introducing your new partner to your child. Children need routine and stability when growing up, and introducing someone new into their life too early can have a negative impact, especially if that person ends up leaving after having bonded with your child. -You can introduce them as a friend to begin with, and avoid any public displays of affection or sleepovers until you’re serious about one another. If you can see this new person becoming a part of your family, then it’s time to think about introducing them in that way to your kids. -That being said, if your kids are teenagers, it’s better to be more upfront about your situation as they’re likely to guess something’s going on. And if your child ever asks you outright what’s going on, always be honest about it.

Hope this has been helpful, enjoy yourselves and good luck in your search :)

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