Do's and Don'ts for your first date

Taking action on the advice and tips given below will ensure a smooth experience. Happy dating!

DO - Ladies, make sure a friend/parent/colleague knows you're out on a first date and where you are. This applies to you too, guys! Think safety and meet in a public place like a coffee shop, exhibition, pub, restaurant and keep it to 2-hours maximum for the first time. Even if you are getting on, please do not agree to go somewhere else. Really important.

DO - Put some effort into it. Make sure you've showered and cleaned your teeth. Wear clean clothing and do not overdo the make-up or the after-shave. Be subtle. Ladies, wear something which won't have half the pub/café/restaurant staring at you! This is not a fashion show or a lap-dancing club.

DO - Turn your phone off and keep it in your pocket/handbag. This will show you are giving 100% attention. Be a gentleman/lady and keep conversation light, fun and interesting. No dreary life stories, dreadful past relationships, religion, politics. Remember you're not at a therapy session so try not to swap wounds, it's off-putting and needy.

DO - Talk about goals, dreams and values and keep it light. Gradually revealing yourself is best. Be in the present moment, not the past or the future. Communicate properly, don't take over the conversation and listen quietly allowing your date to speak. Keep your ego out of it. Share of yourself and make each other laugh.

DO - Respect boundaries. She doesn't want your hands all over her. Don't stare at her cleavage!! Make sure there is space between you unless you're guiding her up from a chair or out of the door, use a light touch.

The most important thing is to be yourself because if you try to be something you're not, you'll attract that and not the love you need. Think about the date being a discovery process, learn, grow, evolve. Give of yourself but don't be a slave!

DON'T - Allow the lady to pay. Pay the bill and don't let her split it either.

DON'T - Talk about your genitals EVER, do not LIE and do not be desperate to impress her. That is coming on too strong as is trying to arrange the next date or wanting to know if she likes you. Stay cool, calm and collected. It is undesirable to be needy on either side.

DON'T - Ask why are you single? This is the worst question ever! And never say 'you have great tits' NO.

DON'T - Assume you're on for another date, think 'she's the love of my life', or your next wife!

DON'T - Make promises or brag about what you can do for her. Big TURN OFF!

DON'T - Be overly critical, judgemental or complain and do not look for perfection. Nobody is perfect! Putting yourself into each other's shoes is called empathy so please empathise.

DON'T - Answer questions with a YES or a NO. How boring… zzzz, make it easy for both of you with good communication, no game playing!!!

That's about it! The other 'don't' really is do not protect your heart. Yes, we've all had broken hearts but try to open your heart and you may be surprised. I always say the more a heart is broken, the more the light shines from its tears and breaks. So be Love and Light. Afterwards, take time to think about how it went and whether you would like to see each other again. Do not bombard him/her with texts or phone calls. Leave a 24-hour period before making contact. Keep some mystery and you will show confidence and maturity.

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